Saturday, April 29, 2017

A Journal Entry About Rumination: A short-short story

My PsychologyToday.com contribution today is a short-story about a ruminator.

"Who Am I?" How I help clients find a career...and themselves

Today, a career counseling client started our first session by asking me, “How do I know who I am?”

As my PsychologyToday.com contribution today, I offer a fleshed-out version of my answer.


Friday, April 28, 2017

Coaching Highly Accomplished People

Much has been written on counseling and coaching in general but far less on coaching highly accomplished people. Such people are my practice's core clientele and so, in my PsychologyToday.com article today, I share what has been most helpful in working with high achievers.

Wednesday, April 26, 2017

Monday, April 24, 2017

Will Humans Be Necessary?

I explore some of the implications for people in an ever more automated world. That's my PsychologyToday.com article today.

Sunday, April 23, 2017

Closing: A short-story story about aging, luck, and hypocrisy

My latest short-short story tells of an attempt at a last hurrah. It's my PsychologyToday.com contribution today.

Norma: A short-short story about the ethics of stealing from the powerful.

When is it ethical to steal from the powerful and perhaps even undeservedly powerful. I explore that in a short-short story that's my PsychologyToday.com contribution today.

Saturday, April 22, 2017

16 Tweets on Relationships

I've grown to believe that short helps more than long. To that end, my PsychologyToday.com contribution today consists of 16 of my tweets that are about relationships.

Friday, April 21, 2017

My Favorite Tweets on Education



We spend billions to improve education yet we're legalizing pot, which now is proven to damage brains. (Don't trust the activists, which are heavily funded by Big Tobacco. See the  new National Academy of Sciences metaevaluation.)


In the name of rigor, courses focus too much on the hard and arcane, with too little weighing of whether that’s the best use of student time.


Most people would rather be entertained than educated. So sugar-coat.


How-to books that claim “It worked for me, it can work for you” aren’t helpful because typical readers aren’t as smart and driven as are book authors.


You’ll likely learn more of enduring value from an hour of wise googling than from any course. 


Banks are forced to modify, that is, take a loss on mortgages but colleges, which don't disclose risks, wring every penny even from its many unemployable grads.


College tuition up 1,200% since 1978, That’s four  times the inflation rate. There’s little learning—36% grow not at all in critical thinking.  44% don't graduate even if given six years, and 1/2 are un-underemployed. Crazy.

I read these aloud on YouTube.


Thursday, April 20, 2017

Tweets on My Political and Economic Views



These tweets summarize my political and economic views:

Ever wonder whether the other side might be right? Worth considering.

The large conversion of full-time benefited jobs to gigs occurs largely because government mandates have made it cost-prohibitive to hire an American.

Can there ever be enough jobs for America's 250 million, 1/2 with IQ of under 100? That’s unlikely in an information-based, global economy.

Half the U.S. isn't working or working at a lower-level than they could. And millions more dislike their job. I see revolution possible.

Ironic that we derive our views on how to improve the world mainly from two groups that have opted out of the real world: professors and journalists.

Ever more news commentators are not experts but entertainers.

It is dangerous to read only current thought. It's too reflective of today’s zeitgeist, e.g redistribution vs merit.

It’s remarkable that with so many lenses through which to view the world, colleges and the media so focus on just the Marxist three: race, class, and gender

Social scientists tend to be more activist than scientist. Wrapping ideology in statistics doesn't make social "science" science.

Why is democracy the sacred cow when the majority in the U.S. read below 8th grade level, don't know government’s three branches, and believe in angels?

Government can't claim to care about the poor when it creates lotteries and casinos that prey mainly on the poor, who can least afford loss.

It’s jingoistic that politicians sing "Buy American!" The foreign worker who “takes" a U.S. job improves his life more than the American loses.

Seeing an individual’s pain causes irrational policy decisions as well as personal ones.

I've just had yet another client who won't look for work until all the unemployment checks run out. Is that what our tax dollars should be for?

An article in TIME: “Debt is growing at four times the rate reported by government. We are already bankrupt."

Laws, policies, and practices that further equality over merit are short-term feel-goods and long-term stabs into society.

I fear we’ll keep trying to make everything equal until everyone has nothing.

We continue to ignore the devastating drop in boys' achievement and well-being, an unfair double-standard.

If girls are “underrepresented” in STEM—massive redress. But men die 5 years younger and there’s much more money for women’s health. Huge double-standard.

The double standard: If a statement favors redistribution, it gets praised. If favoring meritocracy, it's usually censored and/or censured.

We are in a censorious era: Say or write something politically incorrect and you're censured or fired, McCarthyism from the Left, and far more pervasive. Not all wisdom lives left of center.

I read synopses of the 50 top-rated movies for adults & kids. Nearly all push redistribution to Have-Nots. In reality, most Haves earned it.

Our resources have been so heavily reallocated to the intractable: inequality and climate change. The unbiased science indicates that the money and effort could be more wisely spent.

Every medic knows that limited resources do the most good when spent not on the sickest but on those with the greatest potential to profit.

Not withstanding Temp Trump, whom I don’t believe will finish his term, we're becoming an autocratically intolerant Leftist idiocracy.

We are in a leftward era. So to avoid more wasted effort, conservatives and libertarians today should  reallocate time to activities that will encounter weaker headwinds.

Society's having replaced merit with redistributive priorities has led me to spend most discretionary time on classical music, growing flowers, etc.

HERE is a YouTube of me reading these aloud.

39 Tweets to Improve Your Worklife

Sometimes, a bit of advice can be a time-effective way to improve. As my PsychologyToday.com contribution today, I offer the 39 tweets from among my 4100 that I believe are most likely to improve your worklife.

18 Tweets for Your Emotional Health

Sometimes, a bit of advice can be a most time-effective tool for growth. From my 4,100 tweets, I selected the 18 I believe most likely to abet one's emotional health.  That's my PsychologyToday.com contribution today.

Tuesday, April 18, 2017

Employer and Job-Seeker Ploys

Employment expert Claudio Fernandez-Araoz described a job interview as “a conversation between two liars.” No wonder that 1/3 of new hires are no longer there within six months. 

In a small effort to help ensure a better match between job seeker and employer, My PsychologyToday.com article today describes three employer and three job-seeker ploys and how to foil them.

Glass Man: A short-short story about lookism, loneliness, and reclusiveness

As my PsychologyToday.com contribution today, I've posted a short-short story about an unattractive man's unusual responses to being lonely.

Saturday, April 15, 2017

"Should I Kill Myself?" A short-short story about the "duty to die"

My doctoral advisor and now friend, Michael Scriven, believes that we have a duty to die when the cost to the health care system and emotional, temporal, or financial cost to our family is greater than our quantity and quality of life justifies. 

My PsychologyToday.com contribution today explores the issue in a short-short story.

Wednesday, April 12, 2017

Self-Help: A short-short story about health care

I offer a short-short story about health care as my PsychologyToday.com contribution today.

Toppling the Boss: Ethical ways to oust a bad boss and to protect yourself if you're a good one.

Many a good (and bad) boss have been ousted because of a supervisee's machinations. As my PsychologyToday.com article today, I offer ways an employee can extirpate a malignant boss from your life and, if you're a good boss, protect yourself from unfair chicanery.

Monday, April 10, 2017

"Pig" A short-short story about struggle with weight

A man's lifetime struggle between love of food and desire to control his weight. I explore that in my PsychologyToday.com contribution today.

A Bomb: A short-short story about suppressed anger.

I offer a short-short story on suppressed anger as my PsychologyToday.com contribution today

Friday, April 7, 2017

Ways of BeingTactful...and When Not to Use Them

As today's PsychologyToday.com contribution, I list times when it's wise to be direct but opine that various degrees of sugar-coating are more often wise. I list a number of such tactics.

Thursday, April 6, 2017

The Tutor: a short-short story

As my PsychologyToday.com contribution today, I wrote a short-short story that explores whether one should choose a career as a researcher.

The Gift: A short-short story about how much to sacrifice

As my PsychologyToday.com contribution today, I offer a short-short story about a person deciding how much to sacrifice for a stranger.

Tuesday, April 4, 2017

Harvard, Schmarvard

Recently, I wrote What Colleges Don’t Tell You, an attempt to help the college- and graduate-school bound make a more eyes-open decision about whether to attend college.

In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I assume you’ll be going to college or graduate school. I address two important, too often unasked questions: 

Should you attend the most selective institution possible?

Should you take a gap year to reenergize and gain real-world experience?

The New Job Search Principles

In recent years, I've noticed that the old job-search tactics are working less well. Three new ones are more helpful. I describe them in my PsychologyToday.com article today.

Saturday, April 1, 2017

Quicker: Most of your tasks really don't need to take that long

As my PsychologyToday.com article today, I give many examples of how many of life's time-sucking tasks needn't take that long. 


Sunday, March 26, 2017

What Colleges Won't Tell You: There's much you should know before going or sending your child to college.

Most people today believe that college is a must—if not for the learning, as the hunting license for a decent job. So they don’t look too closely at what colleges provide vs. other post-secondary options, such as apprenticeships or the military.

Many respected entities have tried to warn students about college. For example, the cover story of the August 2016 issue of Consumer Reports was headlined, "I Kind of Ruined My Life by Going to College."

The Great College Degree Scam, in the prestigious Chronicle of Higher education’ reported that 60 percent of the increased number of college graduates from 1992 to 2008 work on jobs require high school diploma.

In my private practice, I suggest that certain students would be wise to at least defer college, but the college-is-a-must meme has been too deeply implanted by high school counselors, the media, and the very-convinced parents: “You earn a million dollars more! (A canard—see my article below.) Besides, what would I tell my friends, that my child, who could have gotten into a brand-name college isn’t going to college at all, or ‘just’ to a community college?”

Despite that, as we approach the May 1 deadline, the date most colleges require prospective students to plunk down their commitment money, I believe I should take a shot at giving you pause. I do that as my contribution today to PsychologyToday.com. 

Saturday, March 25, 2017

Career Care: Maximizing your chances of keeping your job and of getting promoted

There are obvious ways to improve your prospects, for example, being smart, expert, and hardworking, but you already know that. My PsychologyToday.com article today lists less obvious ways to maximize your prospects.

Thursday, March 23, 2017

19 and Reclusive

As today's PsychologyToday.com contribution today, I offer an interview with a 19-year old who is reclusive.

Wednesday, March 22, 2017

“I’d Rather Not Be a Recluse”

As today's PsychologyToday.com contribution, I offer the latest in a series of profiles on reclusive people.


The Scarfmaker

As today's PsychologyToday.com contribution, I offer the latest of my short-short stories. This is about a male retiree who thinks about taking up knitting.


Tuesday, March 21, 2017

Career Decisions: Three Poems By a Career Counselor

I got positive response from my previous set of poems inspired by my having been a career and personal coach to 5,000 people. So here are three more.

Monday, March 20, 2017

Life Decisions: Two poems by a career and personal coach

I've been career and personal coach to over 5,000 clients. And the longer I do it, the less sure I am that there are clear-enough answers. Of course, it could simply be that I'm an inadequate counselor. 

In any event, as my PsychologyToday.com contribution today, I offer two poems I've written that acknowledge that lack of clarity.          

Saturday, March 18, 2017

Worth: A short-short story

How accurate is our self-esteem? If strong, is that helpful? I explore that briefly in my latest short-short story, published today on PsychologyToday.com.

Friday, March 17, 2017

Under-the-Radar Careers and Career Advice: Highlights of a Presentation by Marty Nemko

World's Shortest Course in Leadership, Part 2

I recently wrote The World’s Shortest Course in Leadership.  Perhaps it was too short because a number of readers have asked me to write a follow-up. Your wish is my command. As my PsychologyToday.com article today, here is The World's Shortest Course in Leadership, Part 2.


Thursday, March 9, 2017

Strong and Kind Negotiation: An interview with Seth Freeman

As my PsychologyToday.com article today, I interview Seth Freeman, an expert on negotiation.

A Man and His Dog: A short-short story

Here is the latest in my PsychologyToday.com short-short stories.

Monday, March 6, 2017

The World's Shortest Course in Leadership

Today, for my PsychologyToday.com article, I've given myself the challenge of offering the most useful advice I can within a five-minute read.

Thursday, March 2, 2017

Wednesday, March 1, 2017

"The World's Oldest Bus Boy:" A short-short story with lessons about ageism and resilence

As my PsychologyToday.com article today, I offer another short-short story with psychological and practical implications. This one is about a 65-year-old VP who loses his job and takes a job as a busser.

Monday, February 27, 2017

The World's Shortest Parenting Course

My PsychologyToday.com article today offers my best ideas on how to be a good parent.

Saturday, February 25, 2017

The Trader: A true story of how the Trump win can affect a marriage

In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I tell the true story of one of my clients whose marriage has been damaged because of their polar views on President Trump as well as because of issues around money, religion, and decimated sex life because she has gained a lot of weight and because the flush of infatuation had faded. The story has implications for anyone in a relationship.

Thursday, February 23, 2017

Need an Idea for a Business to Start?

In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I offer a few of my favorite ideas for businesses to start.

Wednesday, February 22, 2017

Exhausted After Work?

My most contented clients are not exhausted at the end of most work days. They’re usually just pleasantly tired but with enough energy to have a fulfilling after-work life.

Other clients say they need a lot of down time to recharge. So they do things like meditate, knit, and play video games. It has become clear to me that such approaches treat the symptom rather than the disease. When I probe, it often becomes clear that the client can change one or more things so they're not so drained by their work day. I list them in my PsychologyToday.com article today.


Monday, February 20, 2017

Dealing with Fear of Growing Irrelevant

As we get older, if you’re like me, we worry about growing irrelevant. In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I share my feelings on that as well as how I'm attempting to deal with it constructively.


Sunday, February 19, 2017

In Defense of Duty

Duty, alas, has lost stature compared with such values as autonomy, creativity, and resistance.  In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I argue that's not good for society.
 

Saturday, February 18, 2017

"People are a Minefield": A short-short story

We live in angry times. Many people feel they must be very careful in deciding how open to be, especially about politics, let alone about race, class, or gender. In addition, the hollowing out of the middle class is putting ever more people on edge.

As my PsychologyToday.com article today, I've written a short-short story that's a composite of my clients' and friends' real experiences.

Thursday, February 16, 2017

Advice for Burned-Out Lawyers

Many lawyers burn out. The competition, ethical challenges, and heavy workload take a toll. And while most people attend law school hoping to “make a difference,” many attorneys end up doing work they don’t feel great about.

My PsychologyToday.com article today offers some options.

Solutions for Burned-Out Teachers

Many teachers are burned out but feel enchained by golden handcuffs. In
my PsychologyToday.com article today, I offer suggestions for reinvigoration or if that's possible, options outside the classroom.

Tuesday, February 14, 2017

Time-Effectiveness: The Most Important Skill

In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I argue that time-efficiency may be the most important skill and how to improve yours.