Tuesday, August 22, 2017

Gaining Your Instructors' Respect

Whether in high school, college, or graduate school, gaining the instructor’s respect is key not only to getting a good grade but, at the risk of sounding like the fuddy-duddy I am, learning more, including acquiring attributes more important than the course content: responsibility, communication skills, and perhaps even—and the data on its teachability is equivocal—thinking ability.

In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I offer ways to gain your instructors' respect.


What if You Lose Your Job?

Losing your job is one of most life’s more stressful events. After all, our identify may be heavily defined by how well we do at work. Indeed, compare the worthiness of a life centered about sex, drugs, and NetFlix with even an ostensibly unimportant worker bee—say a receptionist—who ends up making life easier for countless people.

But losing one’s job can happen to the best of us. What to do? I tackle that question in my PsychologyToday.com article today.

Sunday, August 20, 2017

How the Media Influences Us...Perhaps Without Our Awareness

To a greater extent than we may realize, the media, even entertainment media attempts to get us to believe as they do.

My PsychologyToday.com essay  explores how that’s done, using an example: The play, The Book of Mormon.

Friday, August 18, 2017

Terry's Tale: A career saga

As the latest in my PsychologyToday.com series of short-short stories embedding life lessons, I today describe the saga of a 20-something person's career saga. .

Thursday, August 17, 2017

Marty Nemko Gives a Public Lecture at U.C. Berkeley: The Future of Work

I'll be giving a public lecture, The Future of Work, at the University of California Berkeley on Sep. 12 at 6:30 PM at the Golden Bear Center. It is sponsored by the University so it is free to all.

Hands-On Careers

Career contentment depends less on a career’s coolness than on whether it matches your core ability: words, people, data, or hands-on.

To that end, here is the fourth in a four-part series. In this installment, I offer brief introductions to some hands-on careers. The previous installments were on careers for word people, for people people, and for data-oriented people.

Wednesday, August 16, 2017

Career contentment depends less on a career’s "coolness" than on whether it matches your core ability: words, people, data, or hands-on.

To that end, I'm writing a four-part series. In this installment, I offer a brief introduction to some data-centric careers. The previous installments were on careers for word people and on careers for people people. I hope to publish the final one tomorrow. It will be on hands-on careers.

Tuesday, August 15, 2017

Careers for People People

Career contentment depends less on a career’s “coolness’ than on whether it matches your core ability: words, people, data, or hands-on.

To that end, I am writing a four-part series in PsychologyToday.com. In the first one, I described 11 word-centric careers.

In today's installment, I describe some careers for people people. 

The final two installments will be on careers for data-centric people and hands-on careers.

Monday, August 14, 2017

11 Careers for Word People

Career contentment depends less on a career’s “coolness’ than on whether it matches your core ability: words, people, data, or hands-on.

To that end, I am writing a four-part series in PsychologyToday.com. In the first one, I describe 11 word-centric careers.

The other installments will be people careers, data careers, and hands-on careers.

Is Higher Education America's Most Overrated Product?

I was interviewed today to discuss the question, "Is Higher Education America's Most Overrated Product?" Here is the link:

Smart Onboarding

As they say, you never get a second chance to make a good impression, so getting off to a good start on a job is obviously important.

Of course, in an ideal world, your employer’s onboarding program would fully address that but that’s not always the case. My PsychologyToday.com article today offers some things you can do.

Sunday, August 13, 2017

A Letter to New Grads: Three Questions to Ask Yourself


Should you strive more for excellence or for work-life balance? It's hard to have both.

Should you strive for big bucks or might there be a wiser career choice for you?

How relationship-centered should you be?

These hard questions are important for all of us to ponder but especially so for people just starting out. I briefly explore them in my PsychologyToday.com article today.

Friday, August 11, 2017

Making Your Education Career-Ready

Identical twins can attend the same college or graduate school, even take the same classes, and one can have much better career prospects. 

In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I offer tips for how to make your or your loved one's higher education career-ready.

Thursday, August 10, 2017

7 Tips for College and Graduate Students

Whether you’re off to college for the first time or a veteran of the final exam crams, seven reminders, which stray little from common sense, may be worth the quick read I offer in my PsychologyToday.com article today.

Wednesday, August 9, 2017

The Case for Not Giving Grades

A University of Georgia professor is being ridiculed for offering a class in which students can give themselves any grade they want.

Predictably, that’s pointed to as the latest example of colleges’ dumbing-down so a college degree attests to little more than having paid all that money.

And certainly, legitimate arguments can be made in favor of grades. After all, few of us would go to work every day if we didn’t get paid. Grades are students’ pay. Indeed, most students do work harder and thus learn more if the course is graded.

But underdiscussed, a case can be made not only for allowing students to grade themselves but for eliminating grades except for on a comprehensive exam given before a bachelor's degree is awarded. I make the case in my PsychologyToday.com article today.

Tuesday, August 8, 2017

13 Societal Trends

In understanding and negotiating our fast-changing world, it may be helpful to recognize its major trends: My PsychologyToday.com article today offers 13.

Monday, August 7, 2017

Starting Out: You've graduated (or dropped out.) Now what?

You’ve graduated or dropped out. Either way, it’s your first September without the structure of school.  There’s no MWF 9-11 class to show up at (or cut.)

Now you’re supposed to be a grown-up. Now what? I offer a bit of advice in my PsychologyToday.com article today.

Sunday, August 6, 2017

"Set for Life"

The newest of my short-short stories that embed life lessons tells of a farmworker who won the lottery.  It's my PsychologyToday.com contribution today.

The Future of Work

U.C. Berkeley has invited me back to give my second  lecture there that is open to the public.  This one is called, The Future of Work." The university is sponsoring it so it is free. It's at 6:30 PM on Sep 12. Click HERE for details.

Saturday, August 5, 2017

Who Gets Our Stamp of Approval?

Whom should we admire? I take an unusual approach to this question in my PsychologyToday.com article. I look at some little-known people who were eminent enough to have their picture on a U.S. postage stamp.

7 Keys to Coping With a Loved One's Serious Illness

Michael Edelstein is a psychotherapist and my friend. I have been amazed at how well he’s coping with his wife having serious cancer and cardiovascular disease. In hopes there might be lessons for us all, I asked him how he does it. He described seven keys. I post them as my PsychologyToday.com article today.

Thursday, August 3, 2017

Failure to Listen: A short-short story about suppression and commitment bias

My PsychologyToday.com article today is the latest of my short-short stories that embed life lessons. This one is about a person whose commitment bias prevented him from considering important advice.

Wednesday, August 2, 2017

Should You Rely Just on Word-of-Mouth? The case against marketing

Self-employed people who market themselves well and relentlessly will usually be more successful, at least financially, than will even higher-quality professionals who rely just on word-of-mouth.

Yet if you can afford the possible financial decrement, it may be wise to eschew marketing, except perhaps to create a mailing list of your clients and customers and periodically give them useful bits of free content ending with a low-key solicitation. Why?

I make the case in my PsychologyToday.com article today. 

Tuesday, August 1, 2017

Flailing: A short-short story about an attempt to remain relevant.

My PsychologyToday.com article today is another of my short-short stories that attempt to embed life lessons. This one's about a person's attempt to stay relevant.

Older and Scared: Marty Nemko at the Koret Auditorium, San Francisco Civic Center

Older and Scared: That's the career talk I'll be giving at the Koret Auditorium in the San Francisco Civic Center's main library, THIS Sat 10 AM: Click HERE for info.


Monday, July 31, 2017

14 Career Myths

For millennia, people have had careers. So there’s been plenty of time for myths to emerge and then entrench. Have you bought any of the 14 I mention in my PsychologyToday.com article today?

Saturday, July 29, 2017

Ultra-Fast Ways to Land a Job

Unless you’re a hotshot, landing a job is usually a slog. Especially if you're impatient, you might want to try one or more of the ultra-fast approaches I describe in my PsychologyToday.com article today. After all, if it doesn’t work, you can always revert to the slog.

Preachy Pleas: 20 entreaties a parent might issue

Many people say, "I wish I knew then what I know now."  A possible antidote to such laments is to consider the 20 parent-like pleas I offer in my PsychologyToday.com article today.

Thursday, July 27, 2017

Senior Self-Employment

Voluntarily or not, many people 50+ are thrust into retirement but feel they still have job juice and so turn to self-employment.

My PsychologyToday.com article today offers seven simple, low-risk businesses well-suited to older people.

Wednesday, July 26, 2017

The Corner Cutter

My PsychologyToday.com article today is a short-short story about the wisdom of dotting every i.

Tuesday, July 25, 2017

Keys to an Okay Marriage

This won’t be one of those articles offering “Secrets to Super Sexagenarian Sex.” Or “Keys to a Lifetime Storybook Marriage.” If you know those, please pass them my way.

But my wife, Dr. Barbara Nemko and I have been together for 43 years, three “in-sin” and 40 official, with no plans for divorce. While our marriage wasn't made in heaven, we’ve made it work here on earth. One of our long-time friends said, “Marty, I figured you and Barbara would be among the first to divorce.” Naaah-nah-nah-naah nah.

In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I share the secrets to our marriage’s long-term okayness.

Monday, July 24, 2017

Watch What You Say: There are more minefields than ever.

When I was growing up, my parents said, “Never discuss religion or politics.”

Today, the tread-lightly topics have expanded. Some observers praise that as due sensitivity to race, class, and gender. Others lament that as undue sensitivity and censorship. Either way, the need for caution is real.

My PsychologyToday.com article today offers examples of statements that in earlier years would have been less dangerous.


Sunday, July 23, 2017

The Perfect Romantic Dinner

You’ve had the coffee date and the movie date. Now you think it’s time to invite sweetie to your place for dinner and perhaps dessert.

As my PsychologyToday.com article today, I offer thoughts on how to make it a wonderful evening.


Saturday, July 22, 2017

Serious Messages in Jokes about Therapists

Sometimes, we say in jest truths we can’t say seriously. Jokes about therapists are no exception. They may be instructive both to counselors and clients. 

In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I describe the unspoken issues within ten therapist jokes that have stood the test of time. 

Privilege? Should We Redistribute More?

Should we redistribute more? In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I explore both sides in an internal debate.

Thursday, July 20, 2017

20 Questions: Help in choosing your career

As my PsychologyToday.com article today, I offer the 20 questions I’ve asked my clients that have been most helpful in unearthing a wise choice of career.



Wednesday, July 19, 2017

Your Career Values

It’s easy to assume that your values are like most people’s: be ethical, want to make a contribution, have work-life balance, etc.

But people’s values vary more than one might think. As my PsychologyToday.com contribution today, I offer a self-assessment inventory to help you home in on the sort of career or job you want. It may also help you decide if you want to stay in your current position and current career.


Tuesday, July 18, 2017

Perfect Suicide?

As my PsychologyToday.com contribution today, I wrote a short-short story about hubris, suicide, the first female president, and nuclear war.

Tech Tools for Your Career

I’m surprised at how little most people use tech in choosing a career, landing a job, and in efforts to succeed on the job.
In my PsychologyToday.com article today, I offer my current favorite tech tools for your career.


Monday, July 17, 2017

Future Careers

There’s long been fascination with predicting jobs of the future. Leonardo DaVinci predicted airplane (“ornithopter”) pilots. Jules Verne predicted submarine pilots, astronauts, and the ubiquity of career women.
Of course, many predictions are wrong. No less than Isaac Asimov predicted we’d be living in underwater cities. But just as some people buy a speculative stock in hopes that the greater risk will yield far greater return, as my PsychologyToday.com article today, I offer 11 deep-under-the-radar careers. Who knows? Maybe some offer opportunity to get in below the ground floor.

Saturday, July 15, 2017

First Principles of First Impressions

Many of my clients need to make a good first impression, in networking, interviews, etc.

My PsychologyToday.com article today summarizes what has worked best for them. I attempted to focus on ideas that go beyond the standard.

Thursday, July 13, 2017

A Loner's Jottings

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As a child, I played basketball for hours, mainly by myself. I would go to baseball doubleheaders alone. Now, at age 67, I still maximize my time alone.  

As I am happily married, I do spend time with my wife and participate in the social life she plans for us. We do live apart for much of the week, and when I have discretionary time, I almost always spend it alone.

I feel self-conscious about being a loner. I also feel the societal opprobrium. Why would I accept those in exchange for my solitude? I explain in my PsychologyToday.com article today.


Wednesday, July 12, 2017

Work MORE? The case for eschewing the pursuit of happiness and even work-life balance.

We don’t want to believe the key to success is to work more. That’s why we succumb to such easier prescriptions as believe in yourself, brand yourself, and dream it and you can do it. 

But fact is, unless you’re unusually intelligent and ideally also have a winsome personality, your chances of success—and I believe satisfaction with your life—are far greater if you embrace the less comfortable truth that success requires sustained, focused skill development: spending lots of time getting good.

I make the case in my PsychologyToday.com article today. 

Tuesday, July 11, 2017

Short Answers: Getting Unstuck

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Brevity’s benefits often trump comprehensives. So I'm writing this series on PsychologyToday.com, Short Answers. Previous installments can be found HERE

Today’s installment is the first that addresses reader-submitted questions. It addresses these topics: getting expert fast, getting re-engaged, and preventing procrastination. 


Monday, July 10, 2017

Three Foolish Workplace Practices

A surprising number of businesses use silly practices. I describe them and offer alternatives in my PsychologyToday.com article today.


Sunday, July 9, 2017

Short Answers: Marry?

Brevity's benefits often trump comprehensiveness's. So on PsychologyToday.com, I’ve been offering short-form answers to commonly asked questions.

The first installments addressed career issues. This installment addresses a core relationship question: Should you marry? Of course, that subsumes two questions: “Should you marry that person?” and ”Should you marry at all?” I’ll address both here.

Saturday, July 8, 2017

Under-the-Radar Careers for Smart People

Everyone knows about popular careers such as doctor, lawyer, and engineer. But especially when good jobs aren’t easy to find, it can be wise to pick an under-the-radar profession. 

To that end, my PsychologyToday.com article today offers 14 careers requiring braininess.  Many people enjoy these careers and they're offshoring- and automation-resistant.

Even if none of these careers are right for you, perhaps you’ll find one or more you'll want to pass on to a relative or friend.

Friday, July 7, 2017

Short Answers: Landing a Job, Being Appropriately Ambitious

People may be more likely to change behavior from concise advice than from a tome, even though the short piece is, by definition, less comprehensive.

So in a PsychologyToday.com series, Short Answers, I answer common practical questions. To date, all have been on career issues. Today's installment addresses two questions: How should you decide what approach to focus on in landing a job? And how ambitious should you decide to be?

In tomorrow's installment, I'll move on to relationships.



Thursday, July 6, 2017

Short Answers to Common Career Questions: Change Careers? Be Self-Employed?

As the second in my PsychologyToday.com series:  Short Answers, I offer short-form thoughts on figuring out if you should change careers and if you should be self-employed.

Short Answers to Common Career Questions: Should I Pursue an Artistic Career? Should I Retire?

Should you pursue an artistic career? Should you retire? Those are common career questions and a I take a crack at providing hyper-concise answers to them in my PsychologyToday.com article today.

Monday, July 3, 2017

Behaviorism at Work

Behaviorism is among psychology’s most robust principles. Per B.F. Skinner, the principle is that you get more of what you reward, less of what you ignore and especially punish.

Behaviorism is widely used with challenging behavior, for example, with children with developmental disabilities. In the workplace, it's often referred to as Organizational Behavior Management (OBM.)

Manuel “Manny” Rodriguez  is the Executive Director of the Organizational Behavior Management Network and its former President of the Board. My interview with him is my PsychologyToday.com article today.